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Carrie's Blog: Responding to viewer emails

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Whether you have or haven't seen the video, I felt such a strong urge to address this topic. Initially, I wanted to share some of my hateful emails with you, so you could see there are indeed hateful people everywhere, but I can't find them.

I deleted them because I knew they wouldn't do me any good, only harm. I still remember them though, just not word for word.

Jennifer Livingston at WKBT in LaCrosse, Wisconsin, said what many news anchors across the country have wanted to say, and she said it with eloquence and conviction. I, personally, applaud her confidence and gumption.

When I was 25, it hurt me and affected me much more than it does today. I'm older, wiser and quite frankly, don't really care if someone wants to be mean to me. I will take constructive criticism any day of the week. I always want to better myself. 

What I can share with you are faint memories. One of the first emails was "Send the FAT LADY PACKING!" That's right, I was shocked someone who didn't know me or anything about me could be so rude. I realize not everyone is going to like me, and I'm okay with that. That is anyone's prerogative, and they certainly don't have to watch me.

Something else to keep in mind, is that this was 10 years ago, before MySpace, Facebook & Twitter. Social media and email can be used for good, but it also makes weak people feel strong.

That's where many people bully these days, and why bullying online is becoming such a problem. I had several people send me scathing emails without signing their names. I say those nameless people are cowards, and I actually feel a little sorry for them.

When someone has nothing better to do that put others down, I, personally, believe they must be miserable people.

I have family and friends ask me all the time, "People actually call and email you?" I look at them like they have three heads. Growing up, I never did that nor did I think about doing that, mainly because I would have had to write a letter and/or call the station. I just didn't care enough to do that.

While many people email with very positive thoughts and encouraging words of hope, there are people who just want to be rude.

As Jennifer says in her segment, it is bullying (period…exclamation point).! As adults, you ARE the teachers in your household, so if you are talking bad about people, your kids will more than likely do the same.

To the children reading this, stand up for your school mates who have trouble standing up for themselves, not through fighting, but with your kind words.

Some of you have been following my weight loss, my progress, my challenges and my life in general through my blogs. Almost everyone is very encouraging. Some offer helpful tips.

Then, yes, there are some who bully by telling me I'm a bad example to our youth. I take offense to those people, but I also believe they are very uninformed people. I think it's important to celebrate differences.

Word to the wise: HEALTHY does NOT = skinny! I strive to be HEALTHY, and it is a mindset. I want to spread health awareness. What works for one may not work for the other. Start with small changes and keep adding in your healthy changes. 

I work out 4-6 day a week and try to make healthy eating decisions. I am not exactly where I want to be, but I AM HAPPY with my life…just the way I am!

I try to make a difference in my life and in other's lives on a daily basis. I know I'm not the skinny Barbie-doll type, but I don't want to be. I like that I'm athletic and quick on my feet. I'm still working out with Nolan, my trainer, and he tells me all the time I am one of the healthiest people he knows.

I also want to add, I encourage everyone to strive for a healthier lifestyle. It makes you sharper, brighter and feel SO much better!

This is a quote about Jennifer from a good friend of mine and former co-worker on Facebook. Karen Monroe said, "She's amazing. She's a hard-working, professional journalist who's raising three girls and is a contributing member of society. Are we supposed to have our children look up to Lindsey Lohan or Amanda Bynes who are a mess but are skinny? NOPE!"

Again, skinny isn't healthy. Those Hollywood stars have no privacy to make their mistakes and a lot of times aren't held accountable for their mistakes. But, really, their lives have absolutely NOTHING to do with mine, so I just hope they'll get themselves together. So they can be their best self.

And Sharon Tribble said,  "Just wow! I feel the same way. I was always taught ‘Those that mind, don't matter, and those that matter, don't mind.'"

This ‘event' gets my mind working! I am always trying to learn, understand and better myself…always. I'm always asking ‘why.'

In my Leadership Gulf Coast Class last year, I was most certainly known as the question asker. In fact, one of the best compliments I received from a classmate was him telling me he would have never learned so much if I wasn't in his class and hadn't asked the questions I did. I'm proud of that.

A lot of times, people are too embarrassed to look like they don't know the answer. I also believe part of the problem is people only know what they know or what they are taught. To learn something new, allows you to be that much smarter, so ask why when you don't understand. You don't have to agree with everything or everyone but at least you'll know ‘why.'

The best question you can ask is WHY? (this is what 2-year-olds do as they are always thirsting for knowledge) WHY do things work the way they work? WHY do certain people do/say certain things? WHY do people feel a compulsion to judge others?

Then ask yourself some WHY questions. WHY am I being mean to someone I don't know? WHY am I concentrating on badgering someone else instead of working on me? WHY do I even care?

So, next time you catch yourself judging someone or making fun of them, ask yourself, "WHY am I doing that?" Do you know that person? Do you know what they've been through? Belittling someone shouldn't make you feel better about yourself.

I used to say, "I hate that actress. She just bothers me." Well, now I'm in the public eye and people have been incredibly rude to me. I allowed their rudeness to help me better myself and look at situations differently.

Now, when I don't care for an actress/actor, I'll say, "I don't care for his/her acting style. It's just not my preference." Since I really don't KNOW them (I don't know them from Adam!), there's no way I should say anything about them personally.

When someone has nothing better to do than put others down, I, personally, believe he or she must be a miserable person. And I truly hope they can find happiness, but happiness is found from within. We are all responsible for our own journey, strife, life and happiness. Abraham Lincoln said, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Everyone has something which makes them insecure, so be understanding, be kind, and be nice. You never know when your kind words will encourage someone to better themselves and then help someone else... then they'll help someone else. See the positive cycle here!

I'll close on something my mother taught me a LONG time ago: BE POSITIVE. Finding negative in situations is really easy; in fact, most people do it very easily. It's finding the positive that is difficult and a real gift.

In being positive, try taking all negative out of your vernacular. Instead of ‘no worries' or ‘no problem,' try saying ‘you're welcome' or ‘it was my pleasure.' In the first two, both words are negatives. And, no, it's not THAT big of a deal, but I didn't realize how much I said it. When I started working on it, I felt a positive change in my overall attitude, and I could see the person I said it to liked hearing it.

Y'all have a nice day, and spread kindness and love!

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